Perhaps the worst
case in which Ehigie Uzamere had help to hide his true identity, his whereabouts, his other marriage and his African American
child from the public in general and from the Nigerian public in particular came from members of his own family. Starting
with his eldest brother Nosayaba (John) Uzamere, Nosayaba's wife Ethel, his brothers George, Eugene, Andrew, Felix, Osayame
and others, all have consistently refused to tell me -- and Ehigie's own daughter Tara, Ehigie's whereabouts.
Nosayaba is the first of Ehigie's brothers that I had the misfortune of meeting. Nosayaba,
having passed away a little more than two years ago, took the secret of Ehigie's whereabouts with him to the grave, without
ever telling his niece Tara where her father lived or how to contact him. During the course of his niece's life,
he gave her approximately $20.00, which, while a mere pittance, was much more than Ehigie spent on his daughter from
her birth until that point.
Like Ehigie, Nosayaba appeared to be amenable to having me as a sister-in-law.
He went so far as to give me the recipes for making joloff rice, fufu and Nigerian stew so that I would have some clue on
how to "please my man." However, when Ehigie married and later abandoned me while I was pregnant with his
daughter, Nosayaba never made any attempt to tell me where to find him. He never offered me any financial help.
"help" that Nosayaba offered was by way of a meeting that both he and Ehigie conducted with me. Both of them
tried to convince me to have an abortion -- although neither one of them offered to pay for it. Had I gone along with
the abortion, our beautiful daughter Tara, who was recently accepted into Long Island College Hospital's School
of Nursing program based on her high college grades (one thing she obtained from her father was great intelligence and scholastic
ability) would not be alive now, making both me and Nigerian community proud.
Uzamere, Nosayaba's wife, offered nothing in the way of encouragement or help to me to rectify the rift that was
created by Ehigie's illegal and immoral conduct toward me and the child I was carrying. The first time I went over
to visit Nosayaba and Ethel to show them Ehigie's daughter, I pointed out the striking resemblance Tara had with her father.
Ethel's comment was: "She could look like anybody." Of course, that statement gave me room to pause.
I wondered, after viewing Tara's keen resemblance to the rest of the Uzamere men, why Ethel would make such a pretentious
and nearly slanderous remark. The only conclusion that I can draw is that Ehigie somehow disseminated a lie with regard
to his fathering his own daughter and that that lie has been a two-bit rationalization in his underhanded dealing with
his African American daughter.
During the last interaction I had with Ethel, I told her that I planned to publicly expose both
her and her husband's refusal to reveal their niece's whereabouts to her father, Ehigie. Ethel, in a false
bravado indicative of her fear of public exposure, said that she has always chosen not to get involved with her husband
and Ehigie with regard to her niece's sad situation.
Ethel has also never encouraged her daughters to meet their cousin
What a shame! A mother -- a married woman who gave birth to three daughters and therefore knows how important it
is for a child to have the full participation of both parents chose the moral low road by denying her own niece the right
to know her brother-in-law's whereabouts. Ethel's refusal to become actively involved in correcting a wrong
that was at that point perpetrated by both my husband and her husband is tantamount to her placing her head in the sand.
While her head is protected from the outside, she left her rear end exposed.
If Ethel's statement is a tacit
admission that Ehigie did engage in such a dastardly act, Ehigie's refusal to file a divorce against me on the grounds
of adultery coupled with his refusal to present himself for a simple blood test to establish paternity not only makes wicked
-- it makes his diabolical.
George Uzamere, another Uzamere whom I have had the misfortune of meeting,
has also been instrumental in hiding Ehigie's whereabouts from me and Ehigie's daughter, Tara. While there is
one relatively recent occasion where Ehigie and George met with Tara to give her $3,500 for her car, there have been virtually
no contact between our daughter and her uncle George, and absolutely no contact between Tara and her uncle's children.
a search request that I posted at the US Search website in 2003, I was surprised to discover that Ehigie used George's
current address in Brooklyn, New York. A few years later I was even more surprised to learn that Ehigie used George's
current address to apply for financial aid for college and that the federal government has the same address with reference
to an outstanding student loan that Senator Uzamere has not yet paid.
The last dialogue I had with George concerned my using his current
address to serve Ehigie with divorce papers. I left a message on George's phone, explaining that the only reason
for using his address is because Ehigie used it as an address in the past. Upon calling back later on that day, George
asked angrily: "Why are you bothering us? Why don't you leave me and my family alone?"
The difficulty I have had in obtaining information from Eugene Uzamere is amazing for three very strange
reasons: 1) Eugene is Tara's uncle (or cousin); 2) Eugene is an attorney for the City of New York; and, 3) Eugene's
responsibility as an attorney deals with judging the character and fitness of other attorneys. For these reasons alone,
Eugene should have been, in principal, an ideal candidate to assist his niece/cousin in securing her right to have a
relationship with her father and her right to be financially supported by her father. Unfortunately, as with the rest
of Senator Uzamere's family, Eugene took the moral low road. In spite of his knowing our predicament, he has
volunteered no information with regard to Senator Uzamere's whereabouts. What is more, he was able to enlist the
participation of his employer, the New York City Department of Homeless Services in rationalizing both his and its lack of
involvement in locating Tara's father.
Lastly, I have tried without success to ascertain Senator Uzamere current
marital status with me. Although I have never been able to contact Senator Uzamere, the Uzamere men surely have the
ability to contact him. I have asked Senator Uzamere and members of the Uzamere family, including Eugene, to ask
Senator Uzamere if he has divorced me behind my back. Unfortunately, I have not received a response from either Senator
Uzamere or any member of the Uzamere family.
That Senator Uzamere may have divorced me without making financial
arrangements for me, his disabled wife or his daughter is bad enough. For Senator Uzamere to withhold his completed
divorce without telling me goes well beyond cruel and inhumane treatment, a ground under which I plan to file my divorce against